I was so bored. I blamed my job. I blamed my manager. I blamed my life. “I’m too good for this!” I thought. The life I’d imagined for myself was so much bigger than the life I seemed to be having. It’s not fair!
Then I realised… it’s not my job’s fault. It’s not my manager’s fault. It’s my fault. I’m the one being bored. I’m the one behaving as if the quality of my life should be better than the quality of my actions.
It’s an incredibly uncomfortable moment when you realise that there’s no one else to blame for the difference between how you’re behaving and who you want to be…
It’s completely on you.
So I made one of the most important decisions of my life: to stop complaining. To stop expecting anyone else to work out what I wanted and deliver it to me like a genie, to set the bar and jump over it for me.
Since that day, I’ve never been bored again. Boredom only happened when I was waiting… waiting for someone else to close the gap between who I wanted to be (Jason Bourne) and who I was behaving like (Mr Bean). When I did the work myself, there was no time to be bored.
Because I discovered that life happens in the space between who I am now with all my limiting beliefs and barriers, all the skills I have yet to learn, all the steps I have yet to take, and who I want to be.
That same space that I used to throw “it’s not fair” and “why should I have to?” into is where I now find the drive to do better, the challenge to do more, the opportunity to play and create and transform.
Instead of complaining about what’s missing from my life, I have the opportunity to educate myself… to learn something… to change something. I try something new and fall on my face. I embarrass myself. I get it wrong. I get rejected. I fail and fail and fail.
And I get a little bit closer to behaving like the person who deserves the life I want.
Motivation is no more than the decision to look at the space between reality and aspiration and instead of stepping back and complaining that there’s so far to go, drawing on the courage and fear and excitement to step into it.
Nothing but the standard you set and the decision to journey into the space between where you are now and where you want to go can make you demand the very best of yourself.
What act of bravery do you demand of yourself today?