What if it’s not good enough? This question is the little terrorist that stalks my mind any time I’m about to share something I made.
How come little kids do it so easily? How come they don’t mind that one eye is falling off of their playdough snowman as they show it to you but I have a problem posting a few paragraphs on a blog?
Then I realise that a toddler doesn’t need you to think that his half blind snowman is the best snowman ever. He doesn’t even need you to like it. Because he’s not seeking approval. He’s seeking connection. “Look, I made this!” means “I want to talk to you. How about we talk about making stuff!”
At some point growing up, I lost that excitement and instead the idea of sharing what I made to anyone became what Brene Brown would call a shame trigger. Instead of using my work as a starting point for a conversation, I would use it to hunt down everything that’s wrong with it and to tell myself, “this isn’t good enough. If anyone sees what I made, horror of all horrors, they’ll realise that I’m not perfect!”
How many things that would help us to connect with people do we hide?
How many things do we not even make in the first place because we already know they won’t be perfect?
Ok… one of its eyes has fallen off so that must mean this imperfect post needs to be published… it’s good enough.
For more on the naughty little voice that tells you your work isn’t good enough, check out Maryam Pasha’s talk on imposter syndrome here.
You can also share your story for the book she’s writing about these little critters at www.mygremlins.com