I said no!


I’d love to be the kind of person who’s really zen when someone cuts in front of me on the motorway. But instead, my inner zen master and incredible hulk meet in the middle as a white van hurtles into my lane at 80 miles per hour yesterday and I yell, “I’M COMMITTED TO DRIVING PROPERLY AND KEEPING MY PASSENGERS SAFE (+ profanity frequently used by Eminem)!!” to the amusement of my fellow passengers.

The white van reminds me of 11 year old Patrick glaring at 5 year old me across the canteen table and threatening to beat me up in the playground if I don’t hurry up and finish my lunch quicker.

Some people get really weird when you don’t do what they want you to do.  

This doesn’t just happen at primary school or on the M25. It happens in work, relationships, business. The clearer you get about your agenda, the more it will annoy people who want you to follow theirs.  The stronger your commitment to your own values and objectives, the more some people might want to beat you up in the playground.

But if you like your way, keep going your way… that’s why it’s called ‘your’ way

If you’re like me (not very good at doing something just because someone else wants you to), know that the further you get on your mission, the more some white vans (sorry, white vans, most of you are lovely, highway code abiding drivers) will get hassly and try to bully you off the road.

When you say no to someone who’s being a Patrick (sorry, Patricks, most of you probably behave very normally when someone says no to you), put your incredible hulk costume away and practise your most annoying zen smile.

It’s a funny little reminder that you’re on the right track… that you’re in alignment with your values… that your ‘no’ means ‘no’, you won’t do something just because it suits what someone else wants you to. Your ‘yes’ has a high value because it stands for something.

A “No” uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a “Yes” merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.

– Mohandas (Mahatma) Gandhi
I said no!

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. Miss Sehr Hajjar says:

    Aslam Alaikum Sister Shao,
    Ramadan Mubarak.
    I am sure you will not mind that I told many of the women in my local Mosque about your blog. I am sure it will help some of them at a minimum.
    The fact that someone trusts you so implicitly, not just in your blog but you as a person, that they are confident that I and others can get told about you speaks volumes. Trust and Implicitly are very strong words and I do not use that by mistake.
    Inshallah your blog gets bigger because your heart is completely pure, I feel it.


    1. Shâo says:

      Ramadan Mubarak, Sehr. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share.


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