When I first adopted my blind, rescue dog, we totally freaked each other out. I didn’t understand that writhing around wild eyed on the living room rug was a sign of canine happiness (rather than the beginning of a stroke). And she didn’t understand why any human with easy access to chicken wings would choose to be something called a ‘vegetarian’ (what a weirdo!!).
Over several months of misunderstandings, she taught me (by literally trying to kill them if they came anywhere near her) that she considered brooms, tape measures and feet mortal enemies. And I painstakingly taught her that they were in fact either benign household items or things attached to human beings.
I cried my eyes out the day I thought I’d have to find another home for her because no amount of patience and cooking fresh chicken and rice for her every day seemed to be what she needed to feel safe.
But then she came and sat next to me on the sofa… the far end at first. Then, surreptitiously closer and closer… pretending that she didn’t realise how close, until she could dump herself down, almost in my lap, in the protective snail shape she curled into to fall asleep.
She trusted me.
In a world of instant gratification and disposable everything, trust is priceless. You can’t buy it (even with chicken and rice). You can’t talk your way into it. You have to earn it one little consistent action at a time.
If you want someone to trust your word, you have to consistently do what you say.
If you want someone to trust your leadership, you have to consistently treat their vulnerability as the keeper of their deepest inner power.
If you want someone to trust your blog, you have to consistently show up to it… at least a hundred times more than you expect them to.
You have to make a promise and keep it… in the sun and the rain and the snow… every single day.
And above all, you have to prove to yourself, by building the integrity that only comes from showing up every day, living your values and owning your mistakes, that you are trustworthy.
Trust is a fragile thing. But it is the most fragile things in life that are also the most valuable and worth fighting forEd Young
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